Do you feel lonely?
I’ve gone through a period in my life where I felt very alone, even though I was surrounded by people. I had never quite had that feeling before. As an extrovert it was very difficult for me to see any positives and not have a self-pity party. Fortunately I found myself on the other end of that tunnel and only after a short period of time.
1st obstacle: DENIAL
Just say it out loud: I AM ALONE. By accepting this loneliness you can now move forward.
2nd obstacle:SELF-PITY PARTY
Don’t whine and wallow in the loneliness. Just say: I AM ALONE AND THAT IS OK. Say this over and over until you truly believe that it is ok.
Why is it ok to be alone? ANSWER THAT QUESTION. Once you give yourself a reason to why its ok, it becomes easier to accept it.
Your answer could be …… its ok because I will be a stronger person for it…..because I have been needing me time anyhow……because its all in my head and if I reached out I probably wouldn’t feel this alone. Whatever your answer….just find one!
Now you are getting somewhere. By acknowledging the feeling, accepting it, and having an answer to why its okay you can now create an affirmation for yourself. This will help you pull up when the lonely is dragging you down.
I only feel alone. I am not actually alone.
I will be a stronger person by the time this obstacle is gone.
By embracing the lonely I can grow from self-discovery of my inner thoughts and feelings.
This feeling of being alone is just that, a feeling. My feelings are valid, but will not last forever.
** if you are having deep feelings of loneliness or feelings like everyone’s out to get you or even depression due to the feeling I highly recommend seeing a therapist. Therapists are on your side and are only there to help you feel better!